As i was writting this, i was a bit high in alcohol. Recently one of my friend commented that when a man is drunk , whatever he says is from the heart. I do agree to some degree with her. Today is the end of the month. As i'm in sales career, today bring forth a very happy day for those who hit their target and for those who did not, it brings hope that next month will be a better month. Sincerely speaking today is a happy day for me as i had a good time with my colleagues and one of us who did not hit target and get fired left and right from the boss few days ago commented that "I 'll be back next month", see how i'm going to perform. I admired his enthusiasm and his spirit of getting up again after being knock down hard, where at 48 hours ago i was asking...... "God, do he deserved this" kind of treatment from his boss?
Later on the day, i got a called from a very good friend of almost 20 years. He is the one out of two, among a group of friends whom i dared called a real brother . We know each other inside out and' bared' everything to each other, if you know what i mean. Of course as usual,we went out for beers and the last time we had beer is on the chinese new year where two of us chat until early next morning. We shared almost the same character, personality and also surname. He is a man i admired for his abilities to rebuild his life when it was shattered, really broken into pieces, and i really mean it. Not once but many times. He lost his father at a very young age and had to feed and fend for himself. When we was studying, he had to work till late at night to support his family. He had a special gift in numbers. He was a wizard, i would say, in math and accounting. Most of the time,when he reached school in the early morning, he'll fall asleep and will be scolded and punished by teachers..and i asked...." God, do he deserve this?"
After we left school,we went our separate ways. He took up an accounting course and due to his financial problem did not manage to finish the course. He set up his own tuition centre and things start to look good. Then he went a step further in setting up college. Later, problem started because he was not allowed to teach diploma course as he does not have a proper academic qualification . He went into financial problems and have told me at one times, his house electricity was cut off.(mind you,he is married and with 2 kids) His chinese new year ang pow is being dug out from his piggy bank in order to give it to her daughters or anyone who comes to his houes uninvited. Even at this most sad times, he never even called anyone to borrow money. Now he was forced to bring in partners to save his business and was left with lot of debts. Today he works almost 15 hours a day for 7 days to repay his debts. The amazing thing is when i was with him for hours he never complained more than 2 minutes about the fate of his life but just talk on how he wished to change the fate of her daugters so as not to go thru his path again. And all i could say is ....."God , do he deserved this?"
As a very good brother of mine, when he called me each time out, i'll try my very best to be with him as this is the only thing which i can offer him..... my ears.
Dear all, i believe each one of us had at some point of times shout out to our creator,...."God do i deserve this?"...and when that moment comes, please do remember this friend of mine. What he had gone thru in life is too long for me to write. I believe some of us do come across this type of friend and there are purpose why God brings both of you together - that is to remind you how good your life is and how God have given your so called 'unlucky friend' a special ability and strength to cope with life's most difficult moments .
Each one of us have special abilities, some can offer nice comfortable words, some can give good advices, some with good sense of humor, some born with a lovely smile, some with a caring heart........ all this is to make someone's life brighten up. It is for those who shout ....."God, do i deserved this?"
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There are many types of moment in life... just like good times or bad times as same as we know how weather changes constantly...
A person who faces challenges, thinking it should not have happened or deserved this and that... This person should (i do not mean this person did not) do his very best to extract the positive energy...
There are always the bright and dark sides (maybe more)of any occasions... as a common human being we must always look for the bright side(s)...
It is not easy at all but i hope we agree that the right thinking and right thing to do is the hardest thing to do...
Different matters happened because of different approaches, and differences of acceptions... There is a simple explanation of this which are, 'cause and effect'...
So we can always learn from history or at least our pasts... We can even think of what really happened today!
Keep the mind fresh and open to the possibility of positive, and extract it... This will make us a positive and better person...
Of course it is very easy to be said than done...
But it is always the right thing to do...
At the risk of sounding preachy; God has great plans for all of us but we just don't get it sometimes.
I too have a difficult childhood but I tried not to talk about this. It was my past that built my character and I would not change them least I become something I am not meant to be. The future holds promises that I alone can determine.
Anthony Robbins told us that humans are motivated by either pain or pleasure. When our need to avoid certain pain or our desire to obtain certain pleasure is strong enough, we will be willing to go through hell to obtain our goal.
My heart goes out to your friend who had went through so much. I find it extremely touching how he sacrificed his hard earned saving to gives away angpow. In that situation, many would consider that a luxury but he ensures that the spirit of CNY lives on and that his family and guests are not deprived. Perhaps you are right that his role here on earth is to inspire others.
To Pak Lim, you already know The Secret. There is not one of us who believe you cannot do it, so just do it and make us proud. Everybody loses a couple.. and either you pack up and go home, or you keep fighting. We know you're a fighter. Gambate!
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